Living With Acceptance. Living With Resistance.

by Diana Meltsner

 

The greatest difficulty is the mental resistance to things that arise, and the underlying assumption that they should not.

– Eckhart Tolle

 

Acceptance is a doorway to freedom. Often I get caught up in the spin of assumptions that this should not be happening. 

This resistance, this inner scream “NO!!!” has an undeniable gravity to it… if it is happening right now or even if it has already happened. The mental draw to unresolved events is enormous. As long as the assumption that things should be turning out differently is in the mind, the resistance to what is will remain. 

Memories of events like this will recur and shape our destiny unless we find acceptance. 

 I often find myself dwelling on the past in hope of learning to avoid similar situations, in hope of sparing myself of pain. By recollecting things I wish turned out differently, I find myself trapped in the cycle of reliving that pain over and over again. 

Dwelling on aversion, resistance and non-acceptance always results in pain.

 I am not suggesting to idly submit to anything that is happening to us, nor to “go with the flow” of being in a bad or even abusive situation. What I am suggesting is being honest and aware, no matter what, to find the courage to look. 

It takes awareness and admitting the truth to finally step away from that gravitational pull of resistance and from dwelling on “this should not be happening”. Even just accepting that the resistance is there can help. Only by seeing clearly, we can make decisions and respond from a place of choice. Seeing and accepting the truth is the first step to letting go, forgiving, and results in ability to live in the present moment fully and gracefully. Self-acceptance and self-forgiveness have a huge part in this.

 

Truth…

No flinching

No pretending

No glorifying

No denying

No covering up

Truth…

Om Tat Sat

 

The practice of Satya, truthfulness is described in Yoga Sutras of Patanjali Book 2, sutra 36. Swami Satchidananda speaks of great courage that comes from practicing truthfulness. Looking at life with acceptance can bring freedom. 

 

Living with acceptance or living with resistance is our choice.

 

Therein is nothing to remove

And thereto not the slightest thing to add.

The perfect truth viewed perfectly

And perfectly beheld is liberation.

~Maitreya

 

This post was originally published on Diana’s blog on her website.

2021-01-10T14:00:40-08:00January 9th, 2021|Tags: |

Co-creating a Wave of Change in 2021

by Swami Ramananda

As this calendar year comes to an end, people all over the world are ready for a fresh start. All of us in the Northern Hemisphere are now seeing the return of light to our days, which is an ideal time to recommit ourselves to awakening the inner spiritual Light. In addition, the COVID vaccine offers us hope that we may once again be able to be together with friends and family in 2021. 

This worldwide pandemic and other events this year have been teaching us many lessons. We have seen how we struggle without some of the comforts we relied on as sources of happiness. We are still seeing how taking risks to pursue life as it was can easily spread the virus and endanger lives. Our eyes have also been opened to the tremendous harm caused by systemic racism. As literally millions all over the world are suffering from racism and the spread of the virus, it has become clearer than ever that we are all interconnected and that only by working together can we protect each other and our communities. 

Some of us have been learning to be alone. All of us, if we are sincerely interested in spiritual growth, have had a tremendous opportunity to self-reflect—to see in ourselves the thinking and behavior that creates suffering, and the need for spiritual practices that can free us from the prison of selfishness. If we are willing to embrace those lessons and put them into action, we have a tremendous opportunity to co-create a better world.

Many sources of wisdom have asserted that changing the world begins with changing ourselves, and the new year is a traditional time to rethink how we want to live. But far too often, a New Year’s resolution made in a moment of inspiration falls away in a relatively short time as our intentions are swept away by the stresses of daily life.

Along with creating intentions, real change happens through a realistic assessment of the obstacles we face, the willpower we have—which tends to fluctuate—and the support system we can count on to provide continual encouragement. Only by carefully creating very doable and measurable goals can we expect to make the sustained commitment to some new routine or practice that is necessary to make it a habit.

Here are some things we can ask ourselves:

o Are there changes I could make to my diet or lifestyle to support the healing and vitality of the body-mind? It can be much easier to give up some unhealthy habit by substituting something healthier that can fulfill the same need.

o Is there some Yoga practice or teaching I can begin or increase to support my well-being and spiritual growth? Starting small but practicing daily builds a habit and the benefits we experience provide additional inspiration.

o Am I taking care of my emotional needs for connection and support? We have a tendency to override or escape uncomfortable feelings which often lead to compulsive behavior. A practice partner or someone to talk to can make a big difference.

o Have I educated myself sufficiently about how systemic racism is embedded in our culture, and how I may unconsciously be contributing to it? Simply avoiding the topic altogether because it’s uncomfortable or inconvenient sustains this insidious crisis.

o Is there some habitual way of thinking that I find myself stuck in, such as self-judgment or judging others? Do I need guidance to deepen my awareness of how and why that happens and to choose more positive ways of thinking?

o Am I using my time and energy in harmony with my values? We can waste a lot of time with social media and we can do tremendous good by focusing our energies on some form of service—few things are as fulfilling as opening our hearts this way.

If we sincerely reflect on questions like these, we can create a slow but steady process of personal transformation that will inevitably spill into our lives in many other ways. Don’t think for even one second that we cannot hope to make a difference in the numerous and complex problems in our world. Healing our own hearts and minds enables us to feel the natural connection we have with all of life. Making a commitment to embody spiritual values brings them more fully to life than any political process. 

Everyday choices, as well as our long term goals, take on new relevance when we realize that each action and every focused thought is a tangible contribution to the collective consciousness of our planet. We each have the opportunity to co-create a new wave of change in 2021, manifesting more fully than ever the Light in ourselves and our world.

Swami Ramananda is the President of the Integral Yoga Institute in San Francisco and a greatly respected senior teacher in the Integral Yoga tradition, who has been practicing Yoga for over 35 years. Ramananda offers practical methods of integrating the timeless teachings and practices of yoga into daily life, and transforming the painful aspects of human experience into steps toward realizing one’s full potential.

He leads beginner, intermediate and advanced level yoga teacher training programs in San Francisco, and offers a variety of programs in many locations in the U. S., Europe and South America. Ramananda trains Yoga teachers to bring Yoga into corporate, hospital and medical settings and has taught mind/body wellness programs in many locations. He is a founding board member of the Yoga Alliance, a national registry that supports and promotes yoga teachers as professionals. His warmth, wisdom and sense of humor have endeared him to many.

2021-01-02T14:36:27-08:00January 2nd, 2021|Tags: |

Take your final bow, 2020

by Jaymie Meyer

As a young girl, I spent part of my summers with my grandparents in Deal, NJ. My days were spent at the beach, where I reveled in the violent surf. The undertow on the Jersey shore can be quite dangerous, so there were lifeguards on duty. Even on days when it was safe, the waves would crash towards the shore and I would charge into them, being the reckless and resilient tomboy I was. I’d squeal with laughter as the waves slammed into me again and again. Even as I was tossed about and more often than not ended up with a bathing suit full of sand and a mouthful of saltwater, I loved it. I went back for more.

2020 has reminded me of those beach days—only it’s not fun. I feel like we’re being slammed again and again and again, not just nationally, but on a global scale. We are in a collective mess right now. Pick your cause, as there are no scarcity of topics to choose from. 

 In midst of so much havoc, I am comforted by the words of the late great Ruth Bader Ginsberg, “We are not experiencing the best of times, yet I am optimistic in the long run. A great man once said that the true symbol of the United States is not the bald eagle. It is the pendulum. And when the pendulum swings too far in one direction, it will go back.”

And so, there is light at the end of the tunnel. 

We have a new administration. Even as we remain separated on many issues, it seems there will be an attempt to bridge disparate points of view and cultivate collaboration instead of separation. We have a vaccine on the horizon, however long it may take to roll out and however complicated the process may be (and it’s plenty complicated).

As strange as it is for me to wrap my brain around, I am filled with gratitude. Please don’t take that to mean I’m putting on the Pollyanna and glossing over social unrest, political divides, environmental imperatives, or the obscene and tragic loss of life from COVID-19.

I’m grateful because I think I’ve learned more this year than I have at any time in my adult life. I’ve learned how much I don’t know and how much I still have to learn. While I was raised in a home where values of equality and tolerance were taught, I learned that I was still missing the mark. I’m refining my own understanding, and no doubt will be doing so for the rest of my life. I’m honest to god thrilled to be living in a time where I can see how far we’ve come as a society, and how much farther we have to go.

I don’t know how I would have survived this year as well as I have without a personal practice. There’s a saying among the ancient eastern sages that we learn breathing and meditation techniques during the good times so we can use them in challenging times. Well, hello challenge! I’ve been meditating for 27 years and am deeply committed to a daily practice of yoga, breathing, and meditation. It’s non-negotiable.

My practices are vital in helping me practice detachment. In the ancient Vedic and Buddhist scriptures, practicing detachment doesn’t mean we don’t care; it means we are able to witness our concern and caring and not be controlled by it. When we are informed by it rather than pummeled by it, we can make conscious, informed decisions.

While the waves of uncertainty and conflict continue to crash around us and will no doubt be daunting for the near future, I am so very grateful for the tools that have helped me stay healthy, be of service, and remain vital.

I wish you and yours a healthy holiday season and the resilience to stay the course as we anticipate better times ahead. Let us keep those who are working so hard in hospitals and other healthcare environments the world over in our thoughts and prayers. They are the collective heroes of our time.


Jaymie is the founder of Resilience for Life®. Over the past 19 years, she’s educated thousands of people in stress reduction and resilience. A National Board-Certified Health & Wellness Coach, Jaymie is a licensed HeartMath provider with certifications in Ayurveda, and yoga therapy (C-IAYT). A veteran yoga therapist and educator, Jaymie most frequently serves those in mid-life who have any combination of concerns including stress, anxiety, back pain, poor sleep, balance issues, heart disease, insomnia, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis and chronic pain. In addition to teaching the Therapeutic Class on Wednesdays, Jaymie serves as a Yoga for Arthritis mentor. As a Health and Wellness coach, she works online with clients, focusing on stress reduction, weight control and optimal sleep. www.resilienceforlife.com

2020-12-15T15:14:11-08:00December 15th, 2020|Tags: |

What the Practice of Kirtan Means to Me

by Snehan Born

The practice of chanting the Holy names of Gods and Goddesses in Sanskrit is known as Sankirtan or simply Kirtan, as we’ve come to know it in the West.

This practice of singing the names in song form has the distinct ability to center us in our hearts. When we chant together in this way, we begin to lessen our self-consciousness and our hearts feel safe to open more fully. As we all know, music itself has the power to touch our hearts and evoke so many emotions. Imagine being free to sing unselfconsciously from your heart in a deeply spiritual practice, and in communion with other like-minded seekers; this is just a taste of what Kirtan can do for us. Repeating these Sanskrit names over and over produces internal vibrations that can be peaceful, healing, enlightening, relaxing and/or energizing.

I love to sing and in my own way I’ve been trying to learn to sing my whole life, though my natural voice is not great. I’ve imitated all kinds of singers; some even became friends. Eventually I decided that I would just keep practicing and in some future life I might have a voice that could be good enough to inspire minds and heal hearts. I still feel that way, that I am practicing in order to become a real singer next time around. But I’ll tell you something, when I came to love Kirtan in my 40s and after practicing for some time, I secretly discovered that my voice seemed to be slowly improving, little by little. I’m still pretty insecure about my voice, but I receive so much benefit and enjoyment from chanting together with others that I keep with it. And now it’s an inspiration and surprise to receive encouragement from friends who perform Kirtan professionally. 

Presently, I’m practicing the Hanuman Chalisa with an online sangha that meets every morning at 8am for an hour. This is so much fun and it furthers my awe of the effects of Kirtan on myself and others. Try it out. But be aware that it’s addictive to the soul. You might not just like it, you might love it!     

Our beloved kirtanist, Astrud Castillo, will be leading an online kirtan here at the Institute this Saturday, December 12th, at 7pm.  Steeped in the Bhakti Yoga tradition, Astrud will lead us in chanting the names of the divine, opening and attuning the heart to the spiritual ground of being we all share. We hope you will join us.  https://integralyogasf.org/event/integral-yoga-kirtan

Snehan Born has four decades of experience with yoga and has been teaching Integral Yoga since 2000. Snehan resides at the Integral Yoga Institute of San Francisco. He serves as assistant to Swami Ramananda and is a lead teacher trainer. He has also led Hatha Yoga trainings at Satchidananda Ashram, Yogaville, Virginia, The Integral Yoga Institute in New York City and privately in Hawaii where Snehan co-created the Metamorphous Yoga Studio. Snehan is certified in all levels of Integral Yoga Hatha and has received additional certifications in Pranayama, Meditation, Raja Yoga and Stress Management from Integral Yoga and “Life of a Yogi” certification from Sri Dharma Mittra. Snehan has taught yoga all over the US as well as in India, Nepal, South America, Australia, New Zealand, Mexico, Japan and Europe.

2020-12-12T18:57:41-08:00December 7th, 2020|Tags: , , |
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